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Introduction: A Story of Healing and Partnership

Life is hard, and marriage can feel even more complicated when you bring past wounds and big decisions into the mix. In our journey, we’ve discovered 6 Practical Kingdom Marriage Principles that have helped us strengthen our relationship through love, faith, and teamwork.

For Daron and me, our story began with us carrying the weight of loss and healing. Daron was married for 17 years to his college sweetheart, Ashley before she passed away from cancer. When we met, I was a divorced, full-time working single mom of six years.

Blending our lives wasn’t easy. We faced decisions about how to raise our children in a blended family, where to live, and how to balance career and family. Over the past eight years, we’ve experienced a lot of heart healing through the power of the Holy Spirit and Biblical teachings. We’ve learned that marriage isn’t about perfection but partnership. It’s about helping each other carry life’s heavy burdens and growing together.

Through this journey, God has taught us so much about building a strong foundation, and we want to share some of those lessons with you. Here are 6 Practical Kingdom Marriage Principles that have transformed our relationship.

Serve Each Other Daily

Marriage thrives on small, thoughtful acts of love. For us, serving each other starts with understanding our roles in this season of our lives. We mutually decided that I would stay at home while Daron works hard to provide financially for our family. This gives me time to focus on creating a peaceful home—keeping it organized, cooking meals, and planning the family calendar.  I also help him with our family business as needed and we both try to take the mindset of serving each other and our family in every area of our lives.

We realize that this might not be for every marriage, but talk through and identify what works for your relationship and family so that you both can serve one another well.

6 Practical Kingdom Marriage Principles

We’ve also learned that little gestures matter. I make Daron coffee in the mornings because I know it’s his favorite way to start the day, and he always handles the dishes after dinner because he knows I’ve already spent time cooking. These simple acts remind us that love is in the details.

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Guard Your Words

Words hold incredible power—they can bring life or death to a marriage. This has been an area of growth for both of us.
We intentionally encourage each other with thoughtful texts, even on busy or stressful days. For constructive conversations, we use the “hamburger method”: sandwiching feedback (the “meat”) between two positive, affirming statements (the “buns”).

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We’ve also learned to practice patience. Instead of reacting in the moment, we use phrases like, “That’s an interesting idea” or “Let me think about it.” And when we’re upset, we’re committed to speaking less and praying more. This has saved us from saying things we’d regret. Learn more about how to guard your words by reading “The Power of Positive Affirmations and How to Use Them.”

Walk in Unity

Unity has been a game-changer for us. We’ve discovered that surrendering to God’s plan brings clarity and peace even when it doesn’t make sense.

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Early in our marriage, aligning our plans—everything from where to live to how to blend our family—wasn’t always easy. We both were pretty stubborn and wanted things “our way” but we’ve seen how divine order and staying united as a team bring blessings. Trusting God’s leadership has allowed us to move forward together with confidence.

“A house divided will not stand,” so it’s essential to stay united and in agreement.

Forgive Quickly

Forgiveness is a daily decision in marriage, and it’s not always easy. Praying together has been a powerful way to soften our hearts and seek forgiveness.

We live by the principle that “the best apology is changed behavior.” Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough—our actions must reflect a genuine commitment to doing better. Forgiveness in marriage is about moving forward with grace and love, even when it’s hard.

Cover Each Other Spiritually

Praying for each other daily has been a cornerstone of our relationship. I often journal my prayers for Daron, writing down what I’m grateful for and speaking life over him.

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This isn’t a wish list of things I want to change about him; it’s about thanking God for the leader, husband, and father he’s called to be. A typical prayer might sound like this:

“Lord, thank You for the man of God You’ve made Daron to be. Strengthen him as a leader and protector of our family. Give him wisdom and peace in every decision, and bless the work of his hands.”

Praying for each other reminds us that God is the center of our marriage.

Pursue Intimacy with God Together

We’ve found so much joy in pursuing God together. Whether turning on a worship playlist, doing a family devotion, or simply praying together, these moments ground us in God’s presence. Here’s a great devotion book we like that can help “Praying Scripture for Marriage”.

6 Practical Kingdom Marriage Principles that have helped us strengthen our relationship through love, faith, and teamwork.

One of our favorite habits is to thank God together—praising Him for our family, our home, and each other. Attending church and serving as a couple has also deepened our connection. These shared moments strengthen our bond and give our marriage a greater purpose.

Closing: A Reflection on Marriage and these Practical Kingdom Marriage Principles

Marriage isn’t perfect, and neither are we. But when you intentionally pursue God and each other, it becomes a beautiful reflection of His love.
If you’re walking through challenges in your marriage, remember this: you’re not meant to do it alone. Lean on God, lean on each other, and take small steps toward healing and growth. We hope these practical kingdom marriage principles will help you on your marriage journey of healing and growth.

What’s one thing that has helped your marriage grow stronger? We’d love to hear your comments!

XO,

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