Today I’m sharing a free PDF download with 75 ways to support your spouse including words to encourage your husband. Daron and I worked on it together and it’s called “Words that Will Change Your Marriage”. I believe one of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is to support and encourage them to be everything God created them to be! This encouragement starts with the words you speak: you can be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader or their worst critic, and your words can bless and motivate your spouse or cause horrible scars in your relationship.
I share this because I know from personal experience. My first marriage ended in a painful divorce and I look back and see the scars that both of us caused each other because of the unkind words that we spoke. Now in my second marriage to Daron, I made this my prayer, to be a wife and friend that speaks life over my husband. While I’m far from perfect at this, by the grace of God, I’m learning and growing in the area as I see the importance of the words I speak.
The Bible says that
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21, NKJV), and “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24, NKJV).
Our words can make all the difference in our husbands’ lives!
I’m sure you’ve heard of the five love languages, one of which involves “words of affirmation.” If your husband or significant other’s love language is words of affirmation, it’s especially important to encourage him and build him up in what you say. (If you haven’t identified your love languages, I encourage you to read The 5 Love Languages as a couple.) Even if your husband’s main love language isn’t tied to affirmation, words are still a crucial part of your relationship! When people feel supported and championed, they tend to be more positive and productive.
For example, my husband Daron’s main love language is physical touch (kisses, hugs, holding hands, and all the affection), but every time I write him a nice note or tell him how special he is to me, I can tell he enjoys it!
Like most people, your husband wants to hear how much you appreciate him way more than he would ever admit. That’s one of the great things that we get to do for the people we love – build them up and encourage them.
Below are 25 phrases are words that you can use to encourage your husband every day. You can send him a text, write him a note, or just say it to him face to face! I like to keep a few Post-It pads around the house and leave notes for Daron to find, or when he travels, I’ll pack a little note in his suitcase. They make his day, and he keeps them all in a box in his closet.
It isn’t always easy to know the best way to encourage your husband, but this list of affirmations will be a great starting point!
Words to Encourage Your Husband:
- I love you!
- You are so handsome.
- How can I pray for you?
- I’m so proud of you.
- Thank you for working so hard to provide for me and the kids.
- Can I make you coffee? (And don’t ask, just do it!)
- God knew that I needed you as my husband
- I don’t ever want to do life without you
- You’re my favorite person to spend time with.
- You bring out the best in me.
- I can’t wait to see you and kiss you.
- How can I help you today/this week?
- You’re so smart and I value your opinion.
- You are/will be an amazing dad!
- I believe in you, you can do it!
- I’m grateful that I can trust you with anything.
- Thank you.
- Great job!
- I appreciate all that you have done for me this week.
- You are wonderful.
- I’m sorry.
- The best part of my day is when you come home.
- If I had to do it all over again, I would marry you.
- I missed you today.
- You are so strong.
Also, if you find it hard sometimes to be an encourager, I want to remind you that you have a helper and it’s the Holy Spirit! I challenge you during your prayer time to ask the Holy Spirit to help you be an encourager to your husband and teach you ways to speak positive words and build him up. I had to do this in my own personal life and relationships.
If you’re looking for more words to encourage your husband? Download the free guide that Daron and I put together, “Words that Will Change Your Marriage,” its a free pdf that includes 50 positive affirmations for husbands and wives, the scriptures that Daron and I pray over each other, and a list of the phrases we try to never say in our marriage.
What words encourage you? Or have you had a positive experience in your marriage in speaking kind words to encourage your husband? Tell us on Instagram and tag @ourfarmerhouse as I would love to see!