10 Ways to Build Relationship Intimacy with Your Spouse Every Day

With the busyness of every day life, staying tuned in with your spouse can easily fall by the wayside. However, there are plenty of ways to build relationship intimacy everyday if you’re intentional about it! Daron and I consciously try to connect to keep our marriage healthy and on track.  Overall, we’ve found 10 easy ways that have worked wonders for us and we’re hoping they’ll do the same for you!

Cook and Eat Meals Together 

I love meal planning, cooking, and planning family dinners. So, 1 to 2 times a week, I’ve started getting Daron involved to help me. Daron is the best on the grill! During warmer seasons, its great to meal plan a few dinners a month where he takes the lead on grilling, while I prep and cook all of the sides.

We also love cooking weekend brunch for the kids together. Being intentional about working with each other over meal times is an easy way that we have fun together, talk about our day, and spend time with each other.

Go to Bed at the Same Time

Going to bed together creates a shared routine and an opportunity for quality time as a couple. It allows you to wind down together, talk about your day, and connect emotionally. This dedicated time can strengthen your bond and promote open communication. It creates a space for cuddling, sharing affection, and fostering a sense of closeness.

Drink Morning Coffee Together 

Daron and I have found that drinking coffee together is something we both look forward to each day. It provides an opportunity for us to plan ahead, go through our schedule, and pray together.

It’s an easy way to create a space for conversation, catching up, and connecting. Starting the day or taking a break over a cup of coffee can become a cherished daily ritual that strengthens your bond as a couple.

Ways to Build Relationship Intimacy: Hold Hands 

Whether its on a walk, watching a movie, or driving in the car together, I encourage you to make the most of the moment and hold hands with each other.  Its a simple act of intimacy that helps establish physical connection and builds trust. It’s a powerful nonverbal way of communicating love, support, and reassurance.

Kiss Each Other Everyday 

This one is Daron’s favorite, haha! Kissing is a physical expression of love, affection, and desire. It helps create and maintain an emotional connection between you and your spouse.

Regular kisses can serve as a reminder of your love and keep the romance alive in your relationship. And, don’t overthink it! It doesn’t matter about the intensity or the timing, it’s just a small way to show intimacy with each other.

Find a Favorite Show to Watch Together 

Choosing a show that you both enjoy can help uncover common interests and preferences. It gives you a topic for conversation, allowing you to discuss the characters, story lines, and themes of the show. It can spark engaging discussions and shared enthusiasm, deepening your understanding of each other’s perspectives.

It’s also a great opportunity to unwind from the day. You both get a chance to snuggle up, share a cozy space, and enjoy a shared activity.

Go on a walk together and talk about your day!

This is one of my favorite ways to build relationship intimacy. Daron and I try to do this as often as possible, especially during the warmer months when the weather is pretty. For us, going on a walk together gives us an opportunity for quality time and connection. It allows us to engage in conversation, share thoughts, and deepen our connection as a couple.

We have also found that it’s an easy physical activity with has numerous health benefits.  We not only feel better about working out together, but we also love having an opportunity to catch up after a long day.

Help Each Other with the Household Responsibilities 

Daron and I always joke that “Teamwork makes the dream work,” but its true. When you work together on everything in your marriage, especially on sharing household responsibilities, it promotes a sense of equality and partnership.

It acknowledges that both partners contribute to the home and family, and both should be responsible for maintaining a functional and comfortable living environment. We’ve found that by sharing the workload, you create a balanced division of labor that respects each other’s time, energy, and contributions.

Give Compliments and Be Encouraging 

Daron once told me that when he knows I believe in and support him, he truly feels like he can conquer anything! And the same goes for me when he encourages and gives me compliments. These are powerful tools for building emotional connection in your relationship.

They also have the power to boost your spouse’s self-esteem. By acknowledging their positive qualities, accomplishments, or efforts, you help them feel valued, appreciated, and confident in themselves. This positivity can have a ripple effect on their overall well-being and contributes to a positive self-image. Here’s 25 words you can say to encourage your husband!

Say I Love You Everyday 

Regularly saying “I love you” is one of the best ways to build relationship intimacy. As simple as it sounds, those three words strengthen the emotional bond between you and your spouse. It reassures your partner of your feelings and affection, creating a sense of security and intimacy. It reminds both of you that you are loved and valued in the relationship.

Daron and I have also found that saying “I love you” serves as a reminder to appreciate and be grateful for your spouse! And, this is so important. Gratitude in a marriage changes everything. It encourages you to reflect on the love and joy they bring to your life while encouraging a mindset of appreciation.

What are some of the ways that you build relationship intimacy with your spouse? Do you practice any of these 10 tips already or do you have your own? I’d love to hear about it in the comments or at @ourfarmerhouse!

XOXO,

For More Ways to Build Relationship Intimacy:

• 9 Ways to Improve Family Bonding and Create a Happy Home Atmosphere
• Couple’s Bucket List: 24 Fun & Romantic Ideas to Try